Valentine’s Day in Japan is a little different from many other countries. Traditionally, women give chocolates to men, and sometimes this becomes the perfect moment to confess feelings.

But how do you actually say “I like you” or “I love you” in Japanese? Let’s look at natural phrases you can really use!

1. 好すきです – “I Like You”

好すきです is the most common and safest way to confess feelings.

Example:

ずっと前まえから好すきです。

I’ve liked you for a long time.

Why it works:

• Natural and widely used
• Not too strong
• Suitable for early relationships

If you want to sound a bit softer or shy:

好すきなんです。

This adds emotional nuance, like you’re opening your heart.

2. 大好だいすきです – “I Really Like You”

This is stronger than 好すきです but still sweet and not overwhelming.

Example:

本当ほんとうに大好だいすきです。付つき合あってください。

I really like you. Please go out with me.

This phrase is common in dramas and feels romantic but still realistic in daily life.

3. 愛あいしています – “I Love You”

This is very strong in Japanese.

Unlike English, Japanese people rarely say this casually.

It often sounds:

• Very serious
• Long-term or marriage-level
• Sometimes dramatic

Most native speakers would not use this for a first confession. It’s more common between married couples or in movies.

4. 付つき合あってください – “Please Go Out With Me”

This is the classic confession line in Japan.

You can combine it with 好すきです or 大好だいすきです.

Examples:

• 好すきです。付つき合あってください。
• ずっと前まえから大好だいすきでした。付つき合あってください。

This clearly shows romantic intention instead of just “I like you as a friend.”

Casual vs Polite Tone

Polite (です/ます):

• Safe
• Respectful
• Good if you’re not super close

Casual:

• 好すきだよ
• 大好だいすきだよ

Casual sounds warmer and more intimate, but only use it if you already have a friendly relationship.

Cultural Tip 🌸

In Japan, confessions are often direct but sincere.

Instead of flirting for months, people may clearly say their feelings once they are sure. Valentine’s Day or White Day becomes a natural opportunity.

Also, giving 手作てづくりチョコ (handmade chocolate) can make the confession extra special!

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